Marriage Maintenance

Greetings Wives On Purpose! 

As I was organizing files on my computer. I found this great post from my old blog. Although it was written on 1/9/12, the message is still relevant. We must be diligent about marriage maintenance.  

I hope you enjoy the post: 

This morning I moved a stack of clothing from a basket, to the bed and then to a chair in my bedroom. This wrinkled pile of pants, skirts, and blouses needed to be dry cleaned. I rehearsed my "to do "list in my mind and wondered when I was going to get them to the cleaners. 

I looked across the room to my open closet and surveyed my shoes. Some needed to be polished, others discarded and few needed heel replacements. I added the shoe shop to my "to do" list. 

 

Signing, I remembered a time in my life when running errands to the dry cleaners and shoe shop did not require list placement. Here I stood the wife and mother of three who desperately wanted to wear nice clothing but could not maintain her wardrobe. 

What changed? 

Me!  

Carefully I evaluated my situation. I was guilty of failure to maintain the clothing that I have. Instead of making time to dry clean and repair I let worn things pile up. I stored and shifted the items needing attention rather than take appropriate action.  Do you know what else?

I realized that I am guilty of the same behavior in my marriage. 

If you are like me, you can look at some issues that need attention and store them away or simply let them pile  up. Things like hurt feelings, anger, or money issues should not be placed on a "to do" list. 

Instead you must address them with your husband. Don't move conversations around the room without deciding on when you will clean the issues up or get them repaired.  

Marriage is a bit like clothing. You get the designer pieces and enjoy wearing them at first. Didn't you stand tall and flaunt your new husband when you first got him? Well, just like that great "little black dress" your marriage will get worn and need to be repaired at some point. Don't put it off with a sigh. 

 

Enjoy your marriage. Just don't forget the maintenance! 

Ministering to marriages, one wife at a time

Lisa Ellis Williams 

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Wife Dont' Panic

 Ladies, 

I often get calls from wives who are in a panic about something in their marriage. When that happens my only response is to offer a word from God. He is the only real comfort we have to count on. 

If you are in a panic right now, here this Word from the book of Isaiah 41:8-10 (The Message)
 

 ^8-10"But you, Israel, are my servant.
   You're Jacob, my first choice,
   descendants of my good friend Abraham.
I pulled you in from all over the world,
   called you in from every dark corner of the earth,
Telling you, 'You're my servant, serving on my side.
   I've picked you. I haven't dropped you.'
Don't panic. I'm with you. 
   There's no need to fear for I'm your God.
I'll give you strength. I'll help you.
   I'll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you.

And we all said” Amen”. 

Hold on my dear wife God never leaves you or forsakes you. 

Don't panic! 

Turn to His word for comfort anytime. 

All of the time. 

Ministering to marriages, one wife at a time
Lisa Ellis Williams

A Godly Wife On Purpose

A Godly Wife On Purpose

Living with Jesus as the Center of a marriage is not an easy thing to do. That is because often we move Him from the center of our lives without thinking and then see heart breaking consequences show up in our marriage. Living through seven years of separation, single parenting, divorce, and ultimate remarriage to the same husband drove me into the arms of a Savior who resurrects dead marriages. Now I am living to share with you!

 Ladies, 

Do you recognize this? 

It is the banner from my very first bog in 2009. I wrote these words from my heart then and I still mean them today. 

I hope you understand that:

• marriage is a calling from God,  
• wives have an honorable position,   and  
• it takes work to hear "well done". 

You are not alone, God gave us His Son, His Word, and His Spirit. He also gave us a network of Christian wives to walk together. 

I am thankful for my husband, my family, and my Wives On Purpose! 

Ministering to marriages, one wife at a time

Lisa Ellis Williams

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Wife Off Purpose

Ladies, 

Are you living as a Wife On Purpose?  

I hope so because living according to your own understanding and logic can have serious consequences for your marriage. For me the message is clear:

A Wife Off Purpose= A Marriage At Risk

What do I mean when I say, Off Purpose? 

My definition of Wives Off Purpose are Christian wives who live without reading God's word and make no attempt to learn God's plan for their marriage. The marriage is operating off purpose. When this happens, the marriage's boundaries are down and the door is wide open for sin to enter and something to go wrong between you and your husband. Off purpose wives increase the possibility of losing some "love" investments in their relationship. (More in Wife School, Using God's Word to Build a Stronger Marriage) 

 

Most wives are not off purpose because they want to be. Perhaps selfish or sinful behavior has invited negative consequences and you did not even realize it. 

How can this be?  

Because marriage has two flawed people in it. Left to their own devices both wives and husbands will mess up the marriage. Not one of them is righteous. Romans 3:10 reads " As it is written:“There is none righteous, no, not one; NKJV

Do you freely admit that you are a flawed wife? Most of us don’t. We live as if our husbands are the only sinners in the relationship. This attitude is common among wives who are off purpose. But it does not have to be you!

Wives On Purpose begin early in the marriage to learn God's plan and grow love in their marriage. Don't wait for your husband to tell you that he is NOT happy. Join Wives On Purpose today. 

We may not be perfect but we living married On Purpose! 

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Ministering to marriages, one wife at a time
Lisa Ellis Williams