Tell Him you’re
sorry
By Lisa Ellis
Williams
Why is it so hard to apologize?
I have a friend who reflects on each day
before going to sleep at night. She shared her process with me several years ago.
Once she is ready for bed, she stills
her body and closes her eyes. Her mind is focused and she prays. During this
quiet time, her mind replays like a motion picture the events of her day. At
critical points she notices and evaluates her words and actions. She asks God some
questions. What could she have done
better? How could she have avoided that problem? She also recognizes positive outcomes.
Things she did well.
My friend uses this process to be accountable
to God, to follow His commands, and to live a righteous life. During this quiet
time, she allows the Holy Spirit inside of her to reveal any sin, (the small
things that she has done in the course of the day that God didn’t like.) Once she
recognizes her mistakes then she tells God she is sorry.
I have learned to practice this process. I
highly recommend that you follow such a wise example. Why? Because it really can
be hard to admit mistakes and tell God “I’m sorry”.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and
just to forgive us our sins and
to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 NKJV
I have identified a few reasons why saying “I’m
sorry” may be difficult and require practice.
- § We don’t recognize the little things we have done wrong
- § We fail to assess our actions after the emotions of the moment have subsided
- § Our logical minds convince us that we are right
- § Sleep prevails at night leaving no time for reflection
The only way to keep being cleansed from
all unrighteousness is to keep admitting our mistakes and asking for
forgiveness.
This same process can be applied to your marriage.
If you take time to reflect on your relationship with your husband, God will
show you things that you have done wrong. You can pray and ask God questions. Let Him show you how you could have handled
things differently or avoided a conflict. God will also reveal solutions to problems
and by confessing your sin He will forgive you and cleanse you! That is good
news and a reason to sleep peacefully (with your husband) at night.
Learn to tell God you are sorry for the things that break His
heart. The process will make it easier to tell your husband when you have
broken his. Take a moment to reflect now and when you are done… admit your
mistake. Apologize. Go ahead…
Tell him, “you’re sorry.”
Now it's your turn:
What stops you from admitting mistakes?
Is it easier to apologize to others than to God?
What about your husband?
Do you have a process that helps?
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