It's Valentine's Day... again!

Let's get ready Wives! 

Valentine's Day is coming and this year I pose this question. 

Whose affection are you seeking on this day of LOVE? The most common answer for a Wife On Purpose is "my husband". So dear wife, how do you plan to capture his heart and fuel his passion this year?

If your marriage is red hot and on fire then anything you do will be cooking. This year is easy. Purchase any gift, card, or make any reservation you like and see what the day and night yields.

If your marriage is Luke-warm and mundane, it's going to take some creative effort on your part and you will need friends to motivate you to action. Go ahead and do something. You won't regret it and since I have just  encouraged you, skip asking your girlfriends. The chatter will waste valuable time needed to plan.

If your marriage is ice cold, dry and dead, you have probably given up on any reason to celebrate and any hope that your husband will even care. You may even be worried that his affection has been taken by another woman. Yes, I said it. It happens around this time of year.

Rather than focus on receiving your husband's affection and struggling to get it, I propose that you make a shift.

Wrap your thoughts around giving with grace and pleasure! After all this is Love Day and as Christians we are called to love thy neighbor and *thy husband (*emphasis mine) as thyself.

How do you love yourself?

Let's count the ways: 

1) Wake up with a smile- Now go ahead and smile when you say good morning to your husband.

2) Dress giving special attention to details and covering flaws. Love will cover a multitude of your husband's flaws.  The world does not need to know everything he fails to do for you.

3) Feed yourself- Try fixing a special plate for your husband and feed him.  Make it breakfast instead of dinner for a change. 

4) Treat yourself to all kinds of delightful "stuff." Well, get to it. Pick up all of those little treats for your husband. You know what he likes.

5) Compliment yourself on just about everything. Go ahead, give him a long list. Start by saying "Honey, here are just some of things I love about you...." Write the list in a card using red ink if you like.

6) You make provisions to rest and refresh from a long day. Your husband needs this too. Get your marriage bed ready so that when he falls into your arms, even your scent will be a refreshment. Love him and receive his love so that rest will come easily. Entice him even if you don't feel like it. You love yourself to feel better. Do the same for him.

Valentine's Day is the appointed time. This year, if you are going to love then do it by giving.


Count the ways you will have loved yourself and your husband. Once you are finished you will captured the heart of God and nothing can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus.

Now that is worth a Valentines Day celebration!

Write your plans in the comments. I luv to hear from you! 
  
Ministering to marriages, one wife at a time,
Lisa Ellis Williams

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